The proverb, “The fruit doesn’t fall too far from the tree” can picture the similarity between parent and children. Every action, attitude, and words that children say is the result from how parent take care and educate their children.
Like a paper that is still blank, children need education and way from their parent, to distinguish the good and the bad thing, and also to know things that children can do and can’t do.
Because of that, parent as figure that become the example for children, play important role in children growing process, giving affection, developing their confidence and also creating the way children behave and talk.
Make good relationship with children
Making relationship with children is the beginning foundation for children in making social relationship with other people. Regard yourself as their parent and friend, in that way you will know deeper their personality with their behavior, their way of speaking and their feeling.
Appreciate their arguments
Listening their argument is the appreciation from parent to their children as their bravery in expressing things that are in their mind. It is because every children has right to state their arguments because they have reason. It can be refusal or agreement.
In that way, when children grow older and have been the part of community, they will more appreciate other arguments and don’t force their ego.
Don’t compare them
Every child was born with the gift from God. They have positivity and negativity in themselves. Because of that, never compare between one child to another child. It is because it can make them stressed and decrease their confidence.
Still think positively and accompany them in developing their confidence with their positivity and negativity that they have.
Don’t spoil children
For parent, spoiling children is the expression of their love to their children. But always fulfilling what they ask is not good for their psychology development. If the habit of spoiling still continue until they grow older, it is rather dangerous because it will make them dependent with parent and they can’t be independent.
Don’t ignore their temptation
If you work and have high mobility, please spend your time before going to the office to help children taking bath, completing their tasks and accompany them when they have breakfast. After leaving office, try to accompany them when they want to sleep and read them story as their sleeping companion.
The most important thing is to always have time with your children mainly in the weekend and give your attention to them for replacing the lost time because your business at office.
In that way, children still have time to play and have fun with their parents so that they will not grow as children who always look for your attention or other people attention because they lack of affection from their parents.