When children are detected having eyes disturbance and must wear glasses, who actually feel reluctant about this? The children who wear glasses or her parents? From most stories, it is parent who feels reluctant. We can’t blame parent because of this moreover if we also have this experience. Parents feel reluctant because they have reasons. All of the reasons must be based on one natural thing which is the love that parents have for children.
Let us see, what are the reasons for feeling reluctant if their children must wear glasses? Most of them are afraid because the glasses will impede their children activity and their movement. They are also afraid if their children will be not confident or they are afraid if their children can’t realize their dreams (boy usually wants to be a pilot). These fears can be assumed as anxiety because it may not happen but – once again we can’t blame parents for this. But it is better if parents control themselves so that this anxiety will not become children psychology pressure.
Is it psychologist pressure? Yes it is. Toddler can feel depressed physically if they feel their parents worry to them. They are confused with the conflict that happens in them. In one hand, maybe they feel all right and happy when doctor asks them to wear glasses. They like to imitate adult’s behavior and now they are like adult who asked wearing glasses – like adult! On the other hands, they don’t want their parents love disappears.
Too much worry, without we realize, can make us tense, nervous, and not cheer anymore. Children will consider this as the rejection of themselves. Can you imagine how children feel if their parents are used to be happy and relax suddenly they are scornful because they worry too much?
In contrast with parents who feel reluctant if their children must wear glasses, people who are surround children – friends, teacher, neighbor, relative – give too much responses. Their friends maybe are amazed (Wow you wear glasses like our teacher). Whereas, adult who are around them give compliment because they are passionate looking something unique (Wow you’re so handsome or you look smart wearing glasses! When you grow older, do you want to be a professor?) Some people give compliment because they don’t have any prejudice (Hello, smart girl, you like reading right?)
All of those responses seem place children in a stage with the spotlight that directs to their face. If the character of toddler is an easy going and brave, this is not a problem. They can enjoy it. But for the shy, sensitive, and nervous children, those responses disturb them. They feel like sitting in the burning coal. For those kids, wearing glasses is a hard social pressure.
Reduce the children pressure!
The prescription from any ophthalmologist – clearly states that your child must wear glasses. In daily life whether it is at home or at school, there are clearly symptoms of eyes disturbance. There is nothing more important than buying her glasses that she needs. Besides of that, reduce the pressure. Make sure that you buy frame and lens that are comfortable for her and anticipate the possibility of appearing the psychology and social pressure at child when she must wear glasses.
Tips: how to reduce child pressure when she must wear glasses
- Handle your anxiety. Don’t let negative thought about wearing glasses can destruct her happiness. Being thankful because you can do the best thing for her – provide her glasses – and also being thankful since now your child can see clearly.
- Treat her in common way. After you can handle your anxiety, practice yourself to consider this thing (wearing glasses) as a common thing. You don’t need to make her special or press her. Don’t use glasses as scapegoat. (Because you wear glasses, you can’t be pilot later)
- Find support from people surround you. Ask people who close with your child (babysitter, teacher, family, and neighbor) to support your child by behaving normally. We can’t deny that now she is wearing glasses (who knows she will feel proud and wants to hear comments from people surround her) but we can’t expose her too much (giving compliment or having conversation about your kid and her new glasses)